Thursday, October 18, 2012

Five Women’s Issues You May Not Understand

When someone says “women’s issues,” what comes to mind? Over the last few decades, the phrase women’s issues has become very closely associated with a couple of specific societal problems. Those particular issues include equal pay for women, quality child care for working women, access to high-paying careers and jobs, and violence against women, including domestic violence. These high profile issues that affect women barely scratch the surface, though. In fact, many social workers and others who work with women would tell you that, with the exception of domestic violence, most of these better-known women’s issues have little effect on the day-to-day lives of most of the world’s women.
On a real and personal level, though, there are a number of problems that most people would never think about as issues that affect women’s lives in unexpected but entirely predictable ways. They are also very poorly understood by most people who don’t see their effects up close and personal.
Domestic Violence
While the specter of violence against women looms large in political discussions and in the wider media, domestic violence continues to imperil millions of women every year. Despite the fact that one in every four women will be battered or abused by an intimate partner, the myths that surround domestic violence make it hard to address in a meaningful way. Far too many people, including many of those in law enforcement, still think that women in abusive relationships somehow contribute to their own abuse. Even those who are sympathetic and want to help find it hard to understand the ways that domestic violence, controlling relationships and society’s lack of resources conspire to trap women in relationships where they are at risk of injury and death.
Trafficking
Human trafficking, sexual trafficking and even drug trafficking are more prevalent problems than most people understand. Specifically, few people understand how these particular types of trafficking victimize women and children far more than they affect men. Aside from dramatic stories of “white slavery,” few people even realize just how widespread and prevalent human and sexual trafficking is in the world and in the United States. Millions of women worldwide are bought and sold to serve as prostitutes, domestic servants, nannies and wives. In fact, the mail order bride industry, which is often seen as an area where women have the advantage, often entraps women in abusive relationships and situations that are nearly impossible to escape.
Illegal Adoption
The typical movie of the week story involving illegal adoption usually focuses on the couple who is being cheated out of the child they so desperately want. More often than not, the natural mother is portrayed as a greedy woman taking advantage of the desperation of a childless couple. The reality is usually far different. In the overwhelming cases of illegal adoption, the child’s natural mother is also a victim. Opportunists in foreign countries may kidnap children or force women into bearing children to put on the black market for adopted children.
The underlying cause of all of these women’s issues – as well as many of the more visible ones discussed above – is the same: poverty and powerlessness, and the most important and vital single thing that can be done to address them is to attack and eradicate this root cause. Programs that empower women to stand on their own, earn a living and make their own way can give women the tools they need to escape poverty and abuse. Without them, most women don’t stand a chance.

Thursday, October 4, 2012

Women’s Issues: Victimized Twice

Women and girls – and, for that matter, children of both genders – who are victims of violent crime, including domestic violence and human trafficking, are often victimized twice, and that makes equity in the prison and criminal justice system one of the least under-reported women’s issues of our times. While we, as a Western society, like to believe that we have evolved enough to treat women equally, that we do not oppress women and we allow them equal opportunity to jobs, education and the elements of a happy life, the facts – not the statistics, but the facts – say otherwise. In fact, far too often, women who are injured and caught up in domestic violence, drug trafficking, human trafficking and so-called victimless sex crimes, are victimized a second time by our societal judgments and by the criminal justice system.
Attitudes Toward Domestic Violence
One in four U.S. women will be victims of domestic violence at some point in their lives. Of all women’s issues, the issue of domestic violence may be the most pernicious and intractable. When we talk about spousal abuse, relationship abuse and intimate partner abuse publicly, most people say all the right words. Most people believe the things that they say – but far too often, when they are confronted with real incidents of domestic abuse in their lives, they question everything they think they know. They find themselves wondering:
Why doesn’t she just leave?
How can she keep going back?
Why does she antagonize him when she knows he’ll hit her?
Why did she take him back… again?
If it’s your sister, your mother, your best friend, your neighbor – you sometimes see the effects up close and personal. It can be enormously frustrating when you watch the person you love go back into an abusive situation again and again. It’s easy to throw up your hands in defeat, or to condemn her for staying.
It’s even worse when the woman has been dragged into committing crimes. Drug cartels, for example, often use women to prepare drugs for sale and transport them, often under threat of physical abuse or violence against their families. The societal attitude toward a woman charged with a crime under these circumstances tends to penalize them even further.
These women’s issues are not easy to understand and deal with. There are no simple answers, and even the complicated ones often victimize women further. If you know someone who is in a difficult situation, the most important thing you can do for her is to just be there to listen and try not to judge.